June 06, 2009

Family Issues

ETA: Grandma died Sunday at 5am. We will miss her. The service is on Saturday.

Please forgive me if I am postingly challenged the next little while. My husband’s grandmother is dying and needless to say, life has been a wee bit stressful! My 8 year old son, Jameson, understands she is dying, but only sort of. Great-grandma is well  gramma harris and baby J alt over 80, has had a bad heart forever, she’s been dying of an aortic aneurysm ever since I have known my husband - 12 years, has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and suffered a massive stroke a couple days ago. Poor kiddo still thinks living is better than dying even though she is mostly comatose and almost completely unresponsive, not eating or drinking and certainly not gramma harris and baby s enjoying life. He doesn’t understand that death is welcome at this stage and the baby is just plain scared even though there are no scary medical devices at this stage, in palliative care. Jameson decided today, after much deliberation, to see her even though she doesn’t really look like she did, even a week ago when we visited. I think seeing her like that was scary but he was brave and did well as can be expected of a little guy. I haven’t asked yet but maybe he understands better now that she isn’t really there. Last time she was happy, singing and definitely gramma harris and baby s2 enjoyed our company. She watched Jameson reprise his 70’s song and dance from the spring concert at school, asked for a drawing for her bulletin board and was laughing while smackin’ high fives with Spencer. Today there is nothing of her real self left.  I feel so bad for Jameson, he is such a sweet, sensitive little soul! If anyone is interested in sending a card to cheer him up, let me know and I’ll pass along our address; he’d be thrilled!

Pictures: TOP Anne Harris with Jameson as a baby in 2001, MIDDLE &  BOTTOM Anne Harris with Spencer as a baby in 2007.

12 comments:

Yvette said...

Awww Rebecca, I'm so sorry to hear about your husbands grandmother... It really saddens my heart to hear about your son... I would LOVE to send a card his way... I'm kinda "challenged" sending outside the states, but if you would let me know, I would be thrilled to send him a card... Just remember that I'm noooo professional :).... But I LOVE kiddos!!!

Kimmie0270 said...

I'm sorry about all that is going on in your life. I'd love to send your peanut a card. Send me ur addy.

Katie Renz said...

Rebecca,

My thoughts are with you during this sad and difficult time.

Heather said...

Hey Rebecca, I am sorry life is so hard right now.

I hope that things get better and I hope that you get a slight break/reliefe from all the stressers going on!!!

Heather S.

Nancy ~ Inkcicles said...

I am so sorry to read the news. You all are in my prayers today.

Sincerely,
~Nancy

Dawn (flowergal36) said...

Awww I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time. Death is so hard for kids. I hope you have time to stamp again sooon... Hugs my CDS DT sister...

Joan Ervin said...

I am sooo sorry about your DH's Grandmother...such a sad time for everyone!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!!!

Candy F. said...

Rebecca -- so sorry to hear of your loss. it is never easy no matter how long the person lived. I hope you find comfort and peace in the love of those around you.

Debbie said...

My prayers are with you and your family!

Debbie Lee

Gloria Dojlido said...

So sorry for your loss. (((HUGS))), You are in my thoughts!

Lisa Lara said...

Sending you lots of love Rebecca and praying for your family to be comforted at this time. Hugs, Lisa

Anonymous said...

We are the ones left in pain, and it hurts so much when we lose a loved one. Time really does help and we are left with all those wonderful memories. My thoughts and prayers are going out for your family. Hugs, Stella